Why You Shouldnt be Too Nice at Work - TheJobNetwork

Why You Shouldnt be Too Nice at Work - TheJobNetworkIt always pays to be a nice person. Almost always. Some people who are genuinely (or un-genuinely) too nice are less likely to be taken seriously, and less likely to stand up for themselves or otherseven in cases where such action would be just. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) Perhaps youve also heard the phrase nice guys schliff last. While thats leid necessarily true, there are certain situations in which you should curb the niceties and just concentrate on effective communication. Here are a few reason to keep in mind.1. Give, Give, Give, and Never GetIf you consistently give more than youre asked, and take very little in return, rather than be lauded for your generosity, people will start to get accustomed to this being the pattern. Youll get none of the thanks and you may even come to resent the imbalance.2. Quid Pro QuoIf you up your niceness level too much, you might find yoursel f expecting a similar level of niceness out of everyone around you. When this fails to materialize, you might grow a little peeved.3. Youll Be Like an ATMPeople will start coming to you only when they need something, which can be extremely alienating. Youll feel like a doormatlike youve become a tool to help others succeed, while achieving very little for yourself. You may even attract needy people, like a magnet.4. Youll Project WeaknessYou might be perceived as weak, particularly if you never say no to anyone. If youre always doing favors and putting others first, people will not only come to take advantage of you, they will also just assume you have no control over what you will and wont agree to. They might come to mistrust you for this.5. You Wont Take Care of YourselfSometimes its important to say no to others so you can say yes to yourself. Remember self care? Yeah, thats not just something you make sure others do to reach their ideal fulfillment. No one can make sure youre t aken care of but you. And if you arent getting your own needs met, you might become needy in return with your friends or family.6. Youll Seem InauthenticIf you just automatically are generous and nice and kind, then it might not seem like true generosity, niceness, or kindness. Make sure that when youre being super nice or going above and beyond that you really mean it. Be friendly when its deserved. Pick up slack when its equitable to do so, not just an expectation.7. You Wont ContributeConstructive criticism is extremely important, betweenboth friends and colleagues. If youre so nice that youre reluctant to give anything but praise, then chances are youre letting people down. Focus more on helping the team succeed, rather than on being well-likedand too nice to give honest feedback.